What To Do?

Consult With Others

Talking to a Supportive Adult
If you decide that your friend's problem is bigger than both of you, it may be time to bring the issue up with your parents, your friend's parents, or another supportive adult. Keep in mind that only you know the people and relationships involved. Talking to a counselor about this decision may also be a good idea if you're not sure how your parents or your friend's parents will react.

It's Not Your Fault
Helping a friend with a mental health or substance problem is hard work and can be a very difficult experience for you as well as your friend. You may feel a great deal of pressure to get your friend to stop doing what they’re doing. Or you may get discouraged if your efforts to convince your friend to stop don't work. But it is important to know that your friend's behavior is NOT your fault. Remember that it's ultimately up to your friend to make that change and you can't do that for him/her. Sometimes, as much as you may try to get your friend to seek help, you just can't seem to make it happen. If this becomes the situation, you should do one of the following:

  • Seek support from other friends or trusted adults - your friend is not the only one who needs help in this situation.
  • Take care of yourself-get out and participate in activities that you enjoy to take your mind off the situation.
  • Consult with a counselor